Saturday, February 27, 2010

Trials and Tribulations of Military Life

Making friends is hard, no matter where you are in life. It is made even harder when you are in the military. You move constantly, or your friends move constantly, and it is hard to maintain lasting relationships over long distances. I don't have enough fingers, toes, or other appendages to count the amount of friends that have come and gone in my life. Every once in a great while, you meet people you REALLY connect with and that is a total blessing in its self. Then again, every once in a while, you meet people that are desperate for friends, and while you feel bad for them, you just don't connect with them on that level. This week has been very hard, as certain situations caused friendships in my life to be tested, and other relationships caused strain and drama. As if, being a military wife, there wasn't already enough stress and drama!!!! I love the friends I have here in Virginia, and when someone comes along who threatens those relationships, I am like a momma lioness! I just wanna roar and strike out. I know that everyone needs friends, and relationships! I get that. But sometimes there are people you just don't click with. I guess what I am trying to say is life is frustrating enough without added drama! I want my friends for ME!! I don't want to share. I don't want anything to change. And watch out, those that threaten my relationships with my friends. LOL In the military, your friends are what keep you sane, they are what keep you going, when your spouse (aka best friend, other half, partner, lover etc) is gone. That makes these relationships all the more important than regular friendships outside the military, because they are short, they are fleeting, but they are also precious, blessed and oh so appreciated.

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Close Friendships

It has been a really long time since I have had a close group of girlfriends. Tonight I was thinking, the last time I was this tight with a group of women was in high school. In the military life, it is really hard to get to know someone really well, much less have them get to know you really well. You move every three to four years, and while you may make some lasting friendships, noone ever really knows the REAL you. Not so here in Virginia! I have a core group of about 5 woman that really know me! I spend a lot of time with them, and we do things together often, so I guess that helps us to know one another better. Sometimes it is hard to believe that I have bonded so quickly with these 5 women, but I have. It is going to crush my heart when one of them has to leave. They know me, understand me, and totally get me! That is super hard to find, not just in the military, but anywhere. I usually find it very hard to be myself around others, but with these women it is so..... easy and natural. They are my rocks, my comforts, my friends and my sisters in the military. Today I am truly grateful for their friendship and companionship. We always have such a great time together, and we know that we can depend on each other no matter what!

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Life continues on, day after day.

Well all I can say right now is..... SNOW, SNOW, SNOW! It seems as soon as the latest round of snow melts, more is on its way. Last night it poured down rain, then this morning it was snowing. The ground is blanketed in white, and area cancellations and closings are rolling in. Don't get me wrong, I love snow, but when you have a 4 year that LOVES to attend school and you have to tell her that school is cancelled, yet again, it is no fun! Hannah misses school. That is all there is to it.
On another note, Chris is working mids now, and I have to say that it sucks. It is almost like he is deployed, but still in the same house. He does nothing but sleep and work, and I feel like I never see him. We pass by each other as I am on my way out, and he is on his way to bed. Weekends, he still sleeps most of the day, so that he can stay on his mids schedule. So time together is sparse. But I guess that is part of the military life. Sometimes I think there should be an extra stipend for military wives. I mean, hello, does the government realize how much us military spouses do? We keep EVERYTHING together while our active duty counterparts work. We pay all the bills, do all the cleaning, do all the kid stuff (carpools, appointments, conferences, homework help, counseling, etc), we wake them up, we wash their uniforms, we pack them up for deployments, and on and on the list goes. Ummm, hey Congress, I think I might need a raise too! LOL I love my job as a military spouse and wouldn't trade it for anything, but I do think that I should be compensated, and not just with medical benefits and housing allowance!
Well that's enough for today. I have to get Hannah working on her Valentine's for her class party and Jade should be home from school soon to tell me whether she has to go to play practice tonight. The life of a military spouse never stops.... it's go, go go!